Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Baby Mama?

So the adds have been on tv and the movie will be out soon and so I have questions about it. Surragacy. Putting eggs/sperm in another woman to carry your child and then give it back. I started talking about this wiht my pal the Peach, (check out my plugs for her blog) about this and she said Hold it! and go write a blog!! So here I am. She herself is a feminist, I am not too much of anything really, and don't even claim to understand femminism but am begining to glance a bit of what it is about. So my question: would you ever use a surragate or would you be one? Its techincally illigal in most states and provinces since you can't pay the surrogate and it's all under the table but it helps many women who are unable to carry their own child and the women who carry these longed-for children? they have often completed their families and enjoy being pregnant and want to share the gift of life. A child is probably one of the biggist things that I plan for in my life, I have always felt and always feel that deep longing to dive into motherhood (when my time is right of course, and I am able to provide support) and yet I may not be able to fulfill this myself (hush now you who know how reproduction works). I'm not worried about talking about private things, its not that big adeal to me to put it simply: I'm missing an overy. and other problems i won't go into detail on have led to many lines of "well, you might have trouble conciving" and all have broken my heart. I know how odd is this some 19 year old girl is back in the dark ages waiting to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. WRONG i want a life, a career but i also cannot deny that whole maternal thing. I would deffinatly turn to a surogate if all else failed and if i myself was a fertile mertle (and not a woss for pain and needles, goodness knows how ill survive childbirth *rolls eyes*) and I thought I could bare to part with a precious little bundle of spit that i had carried for 9 months i would totaly help others in their campaign for parenthood.....just some thoughts....what would you do? what do you think? Someone PLEASE comment so I know somebody reads this thing!!!!
~Kitty

P.S I am sorry for all of my bad spelling :P

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3 comments:

The Peach said...

First of all, Kitty, you need to understand the simplicity behind being a feminist: do you value choice? your ability to choose a career, motherhood on your terms, your legal rights?

Secondly, surrogacy is a wonderful tool for women who are unable to conceive on their own. It's a simple dilemma, you want your own DNA, but you can't put that damn bun in the oven. Why not knock up some other broad who can? As long as the man doesn't have to impregnate the surrogate himself - why not?

Peach Love!

KittyDobson said...

Deffinatly!!!So if i agree with all those things...am I am feminist too??

The Peach said...

Definitions of feminism don't always apply to all feminists - i've heard some pretty f(*&ed up definitions myself. You just have to break it down to what the main point is: CHOICE. if you believe in a woman's right to have choice - yes you are a feminist! welcome my friend :)